Self-doubt is normal. Confidence grows from within. Becoming more confident should be seen as a process, not as something that is developed overnight or as a singular achievement. If you believe in yourself enough and feel confident in your own skin, then you can do anything you set your mind to.
Step 1: Remember confidence can be learned
Whether or not you believe people are born with natural talents, confidence—just like public speaking—can be learned over time, if and when, you practice. Identify someone whose confidence, character, and demeanor you admire, pay close attention to their behavior, gestures, and vocal tone. Based on your observations, what indicators of confidence can you try to practice or mirror in your own interactions with family, friends, and peers? Confidence is a quality that can be easily observed and readily learned. Thus, you will be able to apply your own style of communication in a confident and assertive manner among those around you because you’ve learned from watching the pros do it.
Step 2: Stop holding yourself back
You are probably holding yourself back in a way that isn’t obvious to you – your posture. Body language affects how others perceive us, and often how we feel about ourselves. Social psychologist Amy Cuddy explains that “power posing”—standing in a posture of confidence, even when we don’t feel confident—can affect testosterone and cortisol levels in the brain, and might even have an impact on our chances for success. Amy Cuddy says it best, “Don’t fake it till you make it. Fake it till you become it.” You can see her inspiring TED Talk here:
Step 3: Write down your strengths
What are your superpowers? The idea behind this question is to unpack the personality traits you bring effortlessly to any situation. Writing down your strengths can help you identify the inherent strengths you possess and build on them, allowing you to lead a happier, more successful life. Once you’ve identified your strengths, you will be in a better position to make the most of what you already have going for you.
If you’re struggling to identify superpowers from the get go, then ask yourself this question, what am I good at? Start making your list and you will notice how the things you’re good at, and you have an aptitude for, are actually your strengths. If you’re still stuck or don’t know where to start, then ask a friend or family member to help you brainstorm ideas or simply ask them what they think you’re skills or talents are, after all they know you best.
One final thought to keep in mind, everyone struggles with confidence, but being mindful of what’s holding you back puts you a step in the right direction. For more posts about related topics, please comment below with your feedback.